Growing up, I had a pretty dramatic family situation.
My dad was a hot-tempered and abusive man, and my entire family suffered because of it.
He was extremely controlling and demanding. He was also extremely insecure and having a sense of control over other people seem to give him a sense of security. It was a toxic situation for my mom and her three kids. Needless to say, I don’t do well with extremely macho energy or people with control issues. I immediately triggered when people start to be manipulative and demanding. I’m out of there. Recently, I was in a relationship that started going in this direction. It started with legitimate things, such as concerns over my other male friends, but soon he was controlling everything down to the thermostat. For my entire life, I have been a cold human being. My internal thermostat is off-centered and hanging towards the extreme cold end. I’m basically always covered in Goosebumps and shivering. My ex certainly knew this when he adjusted the thermostat down to 60 degrees and set a passcode on it. I guess he decided he wanted to torture me with cold air after we had a bad argument. I came home one night after work to find the house freezing cold. I was immediately shivering. I couldn’t get the furnace to turn on no matter what I did. The thermostat was locked with a passcode and none of the usual suspects were unlocking the temperature control device. consider calling an HVAC technician for help, but quickly reconsidered. I wound up dragging some space heaters out of the basement and plugging them in the bedroom to stay warm. At least this gave me some heat while I packed my bags and left.
